Detours

Detours

Hi all! :)

Been hard finding time to post much recently BUT if you've followed me on Instagram you'll see that there are motivational posts updated there frequently too :)

So for today's post let's just pause for awhile and think: "What have I been doing with my life recently?"

We often get caught up in our busy schedules, so much so that we inculcate a "do or die" mentality. It's every man for himself. If I could do something that benefits me why not do it? And today, in this post, I'm going to say that these thoughts have crossed each and every one of our minds at least once. Be it when you compete for something, or wanting to reach the next level in a game, or get a promotion, or take an exam...most of these activities require you to compete with other people. How often do we take time to stop and help those we are 'competing against'?

In fact, as I was planning today's post, I realized that the idea of helping your 'competitors', does sound really ABSURD. Each and everyone of us wants to achieve and be the best that we can be. And there's nothing wrong with that. Set a goal. Work hard. Fail. Learn. Improve. Work harder. Achieve your goal. That's usually the process we try to go through. (Note: there could be multiple failures) There is no "Look out for those around you" or "stop and consider helping the guy next to you up". No. When we set a goal, we are usually forward thinking. One goal, one aim, work directly towards it with no detours.

And I agree with the no detours part.

However, today I'm going to tell you that helping others or lifting someone up in this 'rat race' society is not a detour. In fact, it should be part of your straight, forward thinking goal.

If you're a frequent reader, you'll probably know by now that this blog aims to help uplift you and those around you. However, if you've been reading carefully, you'd notice that it also speaks alot about achieving success at the same time. Success and helping others should not be 2 separate entities. In fact, they should be along the same path, in the same direction of our individual growth.

But how often does that happen?

How many times have you actually thought about helping those around you as you drive yourself towards success? How many times have you bothered asking your friends if they need help? or helping a friend when they turn to you for help?

As you continue with this new week, take the opportunity to lift someone up, while still achieving success. Work as a team with people and look out for one another. Final year exams are coming for most students and it is understandable that we often get caught up with the stress and the heavy workload. Let us try, no not try. Let us DO something good for someone this week, add "Lift someone higher" to the process of achieving success. And I can tell you, helping someone along the way to success, will make the taste of your success all the more sweeter.

Always Lifting you higher! :)

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It's been awhile

It's been awhile...

But kindness and good deeds carry on.

Hi readers!
yes I haven't posted for almost a month now and I'm really sorry about that. At first, I considered finding another admin to write posts for me but then wouldn't this blog become just like other commercial blogs out there? But we'll see how it goes yeah! haha always have the best in mind for everyone.

Anyways, to the main post:

We have all entered the second half of the year and for most people this will be a really taxing time. For IB students in year 5, there are already important deadlines to meet. For students preparing for their final year examinations, it seems that the world is coming to an end. (especially those taking like their last exam of their schooling life) youth athletes in Asia there's the AYG. Employees out there have to improve profits from the first half of the year...basically STRESS for almost everyone.

While I was typing one of my soon-to-be-due essays a while ago, I stared out of the window (no not one of those inspirational moments, it was a rather dull action actually). As I stared out of the window trying to figure out where my fingers were supposed to move on my computer keyboard, a thought came to mind. "How much have I learnt from the first half of the year?"

Obviously I wasted the next 15 minutes recollecting the different events that have happened so far this year. For me, it has been a productive year so far. No big regrets. But how about everyone else? Have you stopped to think about how you're going to improve for the rest of this year?

Waiting for a new year to make a new resolution is too long. All you need is a new day. If that's too short then a new week. All you need is a Monday. No more "Monday blues", Monday will now be "New Monday". You are going to be fresh, New Monday, new you. Start working on how you're going to make yourself a better person. Find an aspect of your life that troubles you and work on it. Work to be the best at it. There's no such thing as too late to try.

I have a neighbour in the next block whom I visited yesterday. He's probably nearly 60 years old. He told me he started learning how to play the guitar and the keyboard around 5 years ago. He started learning something new when he was in his 50s. For most of my readers, I believe you haven't reached that age yet. We still have a long way to go. So why not? Try improving something this week. You never know, you may become great at it.

Turn your weaknesses into your Strengths!
Always Lifting You Higher

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Kind Gestures in Milk

Milk

Right, so I'm doing a morning post and being the good growing boy I am, I was drinking a glass of milk while thinking of what to type for the blog. Then it hit me! (not the milk, an idea hit me) I heard a story once, about kindness and milk, and I hope today's post will help empower you to do that extra bit of kindness this weekend and the weeks ahead! :)

There was a boy who went door to door to sell goods. He was poor, and he sold these goods to help himself barely get by each day and to get through school. Times were hard and he had little faith in anything or anyone. One day, when he was going from door to door, he realized he had run out of money and had only a dime left. So being the street wise kid that he was, he decided to ask for a small meal at the next house. 

But a boy will always be a boy, he loss his nerve when a beautiful young lady opened the door. So instead of asking for the much needed meal, he ended up asking for a glass of water. 

However, as in all motivational stories, the lady was able to see that the boy was hungry and instead brought him a glass of milk. The boy drank it slowly, enjoying every sip of the milk. Then he asked the lady how much he owed her. The lady replied "nothing at all. Mother taught us never to accept pay for kindness". In return, the boy thanked her wholeheartedly. But that was not all, the boy went away from that house feeling re-energized and his faith in God and humanity was restored.    

That's not the end of the story.

Several years later, Dr. Howard Kelly received a phone call that informed him of a middle aged lady who had been struck by a rare illness. Being one of the best doctors around he went down to see the patient. on his way there he looked through the patient's records and documents, when he saw where she was from he immediately rushed into the hospital room. When he saw the lady he told the nurse that he'll be giving special attention to this case.

After a long battle with the illness, the lady survived and was completely cured. 

Then came the bill...

Moments before the bill arrived, Dr Howard Kelly had written something on the bill outside. the lady feared that the price of the bill would be so great that she would've needed to spend her entire life repaying the bill. 

She opened the bill.

And on the bottom corner of the bill where the signature was supposed to be, there was a hand-written note saying:

"Paid in full with one glass of milk"

-Signed Dr Howard Kelly

I hope you guys liked the story! :) Just for those younger readers, Dr Howard Kelly is the poor boy all grown up and the middle aged lady was the beautiful young lady at the door. Also, it is true that a small act of kindness and humanity that you do today, may have an  impact on your life years later without you even realizing! 

So take a moment to perform an act of kindness on someone today! Make it a habit and life will definitely be more enjoyable! :)

Always Lifting You Higher!

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Self Esteem

Self Esteem

A lot of people often speak about self esteem in a very general manner. 

"It's good to have self esteem" 

"have more self esteem" 

"why do you lack self esteem" 

and so on...

But honestly, how does being confident or having self esteem actually benefit you in your life?

We are what we think ourselves to be. It took me awhile to really understand this phrase at first. Does this mean I can think that i'm superman and literally fly? I wish. This phrase applies to our inner self. How we believe in our own abilities. 

Do you have high or low self esteem? When you look at yourself in the mirror every morning what do you think? If you can laugh at yourself or be happy about being you, you most likely have a higher self esteem. If you're upset or depressed about your own image, maybe the later part of this post will be able to help you.

I'm not saying it's bad to have low self esteem, there is nothing negative about it. (except maybe your outlook towards life and yourself) But having a certain level of self belief and self esteem is really helpful and serves as a "boost" as we go through or daily lives.

So how do we improve on our self esteem? For some of us it may come rather naturally and may have more of a problem with over confidence (which i will talk about next time) but for a good number of us, self esteem really is an issue. 

Here are some tips:

1) Dress well 

A lot of people undermine the importance of dressing well. When I was in lower secondary, I had a teacher who thought me the importance of personal grooming. This teacher wasn't your ordinary guy, he was already a millionaire and I figured he taught because it was his passion to. Anyways, he himself had a high level of self esteem and he passed that on to his students. During one of his lessons he taught us the importance of dressing up well, shaving (if we needed to) and some other grooming stuff. It's surprising to note that in the workforce, statistics show that fellow employees find it harder to trust those with unkempt facial hair. Also, dressing well raises your own esteem level. It's like how some people feel smarter wearing glasses. A psychological thing. Here's an example, when you wear baggy jeans and a singlet as compared to wearing a suit and tie, which one is going to portray an image of someone slick and confident? You yourself will be able to feel an internal boost by liking the way you look.

2) Looking up

Over my years in shooting and captaining I've seen some kids walk through the door, go through one entire training and leave with their head facing the ground the whole time. I mean, isn't that tiring? LOOK UP! The world is a lot more beautiful then just the square tiles or the cement on the floor. When you speak to someone, look at them (unless you find them repulsive, then that'll be a matter of tolerance). I went to this place once and the speaker happened to go off topic awhile and started speaking on communication. He shared that a lot of us really do not know where to look when talking to a person face to face. We don't know where to focus. If we maintain too much eye contact, well staring is bad. If we give too little eye contact, that's a sign of disinterest. So where do we look? The speaker that day recommended the spot between the person's eyes, you know the T zone area? yeah. It works pretty well too cos you get to observe the person's non-verbal language and signals too. So, we can see how looking up serves more benefits than looking down. So why not? If you are someone who tends to admire the floor more than the world around you, take some time and look up, look at people. Slowly but surely, you will feel a confidence boost to face the world.

3) Think positive

Most people will put this as the most important and first way of boosting one's confidence. I personally will put it at the end because despite it being easy to say that every action begins with a thought, it must be noted that if you are having a self esteem issue and you are reading this now, you've probably been thinking negatively towards tons of things your entire life. Am i right? And I know by saying "Be confident" it isn't going to change much. But what I can do and have done is by giving you the first 2 steps. 2 physical steps. Dressing up well and looking up. 2 physical steps to  work from the outside in. Only when you've managed the first two, then try this 3rd step. 

Thinking positive is harder then it sounds, even for people with a high self esteem. As humans, we complain, whine and get depressed at times. When you've just had a bad day, you really just want to shut yourself out from the world and you should. Negativity, just like positivity, is infectious. One persons mindset can easily influence his/her surrounding people. Start small, start slowly, that's what I recommend. Practice by waking up everyday and telling yourself "I can". Then for the rest of the day, use this "I can" phrase when you feel the world is getting down on you. Let's say you just got verbally abused. Tell yourself: "I can control myself" If they said you suck, Tell yourself "I rock". Do you realize that I use "I rock" instead of "I don't suck"? The moment you place a "don't" or a "not" in your positive belief phrase, it isn't positive anymore. So try it. use positive belief phrases bit by bit day by day. Practice becomes a habit, so START PRACTICING POSITIVITY. 

Be confident everyone! If you have a self esteem problem or you need help, you can always DM me on twitter end me a private message on facebook or even an email :) 

Always Lifting You higher!

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Friends

Friends

Hi Readers! Hope you guys have been having a great week! :)

Personally, last week really thought me alot of things about friendship and cherishing those around me. Today I'll be using this post to share some of the things I learnt and hopefully you too will be encouraged to make more lifelong friendships! :)

I'm gonna do a really casual post today and probably next week, I'll get back to the serious motivational and inspirational stuff! :) This is a blog afterall! and sometimes I need to just plainly share my thoughts about the week~

So last week was quite a busy one for me, I went out with several groups of friends (going to meet more this week) and if any of you are reading this I just want you to know that I really cherish our friendship and I hope we can do a lot more awesome things together! 

During the week, I met up with some of my school shooters for one of our teacher's farewell party. Most people perceive farewells as a rather sad and depressing thing but hey, farewells can be a happy thing too! Not that you're happy to get rid of the person, but you're happy that your friend has found something new to move on to! So the farewell party was a pretty happy occasion, the teacher is heading overseas with a husband so all the best to them! Something I'll remember about this teacher is that she always treated students in a rather strict yet humorous way. There was something about the way she did things that made her a great mentor to be under while I was chairman of the team. 

I'm gonna skip all the other boring stuff and move on to....the weekend! :)

Over to the weekend, I MET MY NYT SHOOTING PEEPS ^^ Ok it was just 5 of us but we haven't seen each other in ages so it was really great having dinner and shopping (yeah shopping cos there were more girls than guys..) with them! :) 

Meeting up with friends who you haven't seen in ages often gives you that funny feeling inside. Like when you depart, you're all "OMGOSH When will I see them again :O " But then something inside you reminds you that friendships are more than just the physical meetings. They are about the experiences and the moments that can be cherished for a lifetime :) (ok I must admit that what I just said was pretty deep stuff, even for me.)

I always feel blessed to have such great friends by my side and over the next few days I'll be meeting up with some church and school friends (all great people to be with ;) ), definitely going to be a great week! 

So to all my readers: Cherish your current friends and also make new ones :) Friends do not need to be of the same age as you, young and old. Have friends of all age groups :) Remember what I said in one of my previous posts! "LIVE LIFE" :)

Thanks readers! Have a great week ahead! I'll be studying for my mid years but if you do have any requests just drop me a message somewhere! (email, twitter, facebook, instagram)

Always Lifting You Higher

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Appreciate

Appreciate

Hi everyone! It's been awhile since I last posted, been busy and studies and stuff (as usual). So over the past week, I celebrated my birthday! Yeah! It was ok I guess~ First time I had to go to school on my birthday and tuition too! I mean who studies on their birthday?!......me 

But I guess that's what life has become for a lot of us right? A busy rat race where we all work hard for the future and hope that all the hard work pays off... Kinda sucks though doesn't it? I mentioned before that working towards your goals and having aims are very important for success. And yes, by all means, do work towards success. But most of us, including myself sometimes, work towards success forgetting to enjoy and appreciate the many experiences and moments we have on route to success.

There was this really sad story I once heard of a man who worked hard all his life, but always worried about things (especially money) and could not bring himself to enjoy the moment. (Sounds a bit like Mr Scrooge) In the end, life is short as we know it, he never got to enjoy his hard work.

Here's a question: "How long do you want to suffer before you let yourself enjoy?" 

Most of us see suffering and enjoyment as two very separate things. (and you're not wrong) However, have you ever thought of liking what you do? The more you enjoy what you do, the happier you'll be (duh), and liking what you do will probably lead you to doing well in it. Making you a more motivated and inspired person in general. That's what we all want isn't it? To be the best we can be, to achieve success. Sometimes though, we just have to accept that success can come naturally without us realizing it and most often, we get this form of success when we are enjoying what we do! 

So appreciate what life throws at you today (and everyday)! because every moment should be enjoyed and lived to the fullest! :) Thanks for reading! :)

Always Lifting you Higher

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Live Life

Live Life

This week was quite an emotional one. Have you ever had those kind of moments where you are forced to just stop and think about what you're doing with your life? are we really doing something worthwhile with our lives?

I'm turning 17 years old in a couple of days, I'd only expect to attend a friend's wake maybe in about 50 years time? but no. On Thursday, I attended a wake of my ex-classmate, Darren. He too was 17.

When you think about being 17, you have your entire life ahead of you...there's 18 to look forward to, there's people who you've yet to meet and work you've yet to do. 17, the age where you're too young to be considered an adult but too old to be considered a kid either. And death doesn't even come to mind. 

But there he was, as I walked pass the coffin where he lay.. 

I must admit, that I wasn't close to him, in fact I didn't know a lot about him. I did get his personality right though. A nice guy, truly humble, never caused anyone trouble. As I listened to all the tributes, that's what I heard. 

I heard from a friend that he used to throw parties. People would just come for the parties. It was just like an open invitation for the whole school. Some people will come and not even know that it was his party or his birthday. And what will he do about that? Absolutely nothing. The party just goes on.

It is rare to find such a gracious host in this 'power hungry and fame-driven' world of ours. But here he was, a 17 year old, showing true graciousness and humility.

So here's the big question, what are we doing with our lives? Think about it, did you live today to the fullest? Do you regret doing something or wish to make something better?
I know I do.
Don't wait till you're forced to think about what you're doing with your life. Stop and think now, put in the effort to make your life better.

"what are we doing with our lives?"

So let's all make it a point, to Live Life. Cos life is short. There's not a moment to waste. Live Life to the Fullest.

Thanks for reading! Pray for Darren's family.

Always Lifting You Higher

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Violin - A story on Belief and Faith

Violin - A story on Belief and Faith

Hi everyone! :) I know I said I'll write about my Indonesia Trip today on my previous post but it's soooo long and there are so many things to write about! So I decided to add bits and pieces of the experience in the next few posts! Don't worry! 

Anyways, today I want to tell a story! and you've probably guessed it by now that it's about a violin. Now even I'm not musically inclined so if you're not good at music or don't play an instrument, DON'T WORRY! This post can still motivate you to be a better person :)

There was this old musician who recently passed away and his instruments were being auctioned of at am auction house for charity. This musician was well accomplished and his instruments were all well taken care off. So without much trouble, the instruments were auctioned off one by one at reasonably high prices. However, among these instruments was a dusty and old violin. 

When the auctioner (sorry i don't know the actual word for the person who auctions things--if you do know please DM me on twitter! Thanks :)) ok BACK TO THE STORY...When the auctioner picked up the violin, he knew this piece was going to be hard to auction off. He had hoped that it was still well tuned but to his dismay when he played a note, the sound came off so horrible to the ear that there was an audible groan from the audience. 

"starting price $100"

*no buyers*

"$50?"

*no buyers*

This went on till the auctioner finally said "50 cents, A violin for 50 cents"

By now you would've thought people would sympathize and buy the violin...at this moment, an elderly gentleman stood up and walked onto stage. He quietly cleaned off the dust and dirt from the violin, and slowly but surely tuned each string on the violin. He then went on to play a piece which most people would've heard before and this time, it sounded wonderful. Everyone was so touched by the piece that the response for the violin became intense, to say the least.

"$100"

"$200"

"$500"

"750"

...

This went on till the violin finally sold for $1000! 

Amazing ain't it? How something that nobody wanted for 50 cents can suddenly be worth $1000!

So what can we learn from this story?

If it weren't for that bit of faith that man had in the violin, it would've never have sold for such a high price. In fact if you think about it, in that entire room, only that one man had faith that the violin could become something great.

Nobody is worthless or useless. Everyone just needs that little bit of faith. Have that faith, have that belief in the people around you. Invest in the people around you (I learnt this recently). 

Personally, I believe that a lot of people (more than I actually deserve) have that belief in me. They believe that when I do something, it'll probably turn out well. And that's a good feeling to have, having someone trust you, believe in you, put their faith in you. 

Of course there are people who don't believe but that topic i'll leave to another day :)

So have faith in those around you. Believe in them. Because you never know, someone in a slump today may become someone great tomorrow! 

AND REMEMBER if you are the person in the slump, have faith in yourself! because YOU are your biggest supporter, your biggest fan, so stay POSITIVE and push on! :)

Always Lifting You Higher

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Charity Shoot

Charity Shoot

A shooters for shooter effort

HI EVERYONE! It's been quite awhile since I posted! Just got back from building walls in Indonesia, and my skin is like super dark now compared to before I went. Anyways, I'll talk more about that learning journey in my NEXT POST. But for today, I'd like to talk about something which really gave the perfect end to my week.

So what was this Charity Shoot about? Basically, Aishah is an ex-national shooter who was suddenly struck with a severe form of bacterial infection in July 2012. This caused toxic shock and led to multiple organ failure. Gangrene set in her limbs and she fought for her life in hospital, and all four limbs had to be amputated. Despite this, she has stayed a positive fighter and a true sportsman. She hopes to get a pair of prosthetic hands so that she can coach again. The charity shoot was to raise money for her.

I went to the range with the intention of just donating and going home. However, if you'd seen the range on the day of the charity shoot, it was PACKED. I mean even after almost 5 years of going to the range, I've never seen it this packed before. This in itself was heartwarming as it showed how people cared and that there's still kindness and humanity in the world we live in. In the end I helped out for the last couple of hours and I can say despite all the homework piling up back home, if I could turn back time and decide again, I wouldn't change a thing. Helping out at the Charity shoot was definitely a must. 

Other than the crowd I was also proud to see the commitment of all the helpers and I'll like to just say GOOD JOB EVERYONE! :) An example of their commitment was when I helped Jasmine with her lane for about 10mins. At first I thought she needed a toilet break, it turned out she went for lunch. I was shocked, it was already almost 4 o'clock and she hadn't eaten lunch! That just shows the commitment to keep coaching and helping out at the shoot. And this was probably the same for the other helpers, all carrying the same positive attitude and smile as they guided each family or member of public in shooting. Once again I think all the helpers over the 2 days deserve a big THANK YOU :)

I managed to get a picture with Aishah and in that short moment of interaction I saw that positive attitude in her. She really is an inspiration. Still smiling, still joking, enjoying the moment and the interactions with those around her. Aishah's positive attitude and perseverance is truly an inspiration. We should all have this attitude towards life :)

Here's a link on channel news asia of how things went:

http://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/singapore/charity-event-raises-s-130-000-for-forme/680430.html 

In short, we managed to raise $130 000 and I'm sure this money will definitely go a long way in helping Aishah :) Thank you to all those who came down!

Thanks for reading! :)

Always Lifting You Higher

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Kindness

Kindness

Well guys and girls, I'll be off to BATAM for a week~ Going there to give back to the overseas community and do my little part in making this world better ^^ Basically my classmates and I will be teaching kids elementary English and helping the villages to construct stuff. The only downside is that there'll be NO INTERNET for 1 week!! So no tweets, insta pics of motivation or posts from me~ But hopefully all the previous posts can help you solve or answer any questions or problems! :) If they don't, drop m a message! and I'll definitely reply it when I get back :) (as always)

So, for today's post, I'll be sharing on a story of kindness I came across recently! In fact, come to think of it, I've been hearing alot of kindness related stories recently! Maybe the world is becoming a better place? :)

There's this girl, in the UK, her name is Zoe Green. Now Zoe decided that her personal life's mission is to try to bring some unexpected cheer to her neighbours. (Great job Zoe!) So what did she do?

One day in April, in the early morning darkness, "Happy Street Day" begun. Zoe woke up and began DECORATING HER ENTIRE STREET at 5am! She hung balloons at bus shelters, telephone booths and post boxes, she stuck Post-Its with encouraging messages. Some left encouragements, some just a simple greeting of "Good Morning!" This little step of trying to inspire people definitely brightened up at least 1 life that day. I know it has brightened mine just by reading her story.

It's not how big a step we take to making this world a better place. It's the little things that we do, the tiny snippets of inspiration we leave behind for people to take that can leave a lasting impact.

YOU can inspire someone today. yes YOU. Lift someone Higher today. Maybe start with your family members, then your friends, then your community, keep expanding keep helping keep inspiring :) Because you'll never know how you may have just changed someone's day in a positive way! :) 

So what are you waiting for! Start NOW! Mother's day is around the corner! It's definitely a great opportunity to start being the positive source of motivation to your love ones!

I really hope that more people can be like Zoe Green and inspire those around them!

Now, just a little 'food for thought' I read on the article before I sign off for another week:

"If you left your house one morning and walked down a street to find it filled with lovely signs of encouragement, won't you feel that nothing can get you down?"

Thanks Readers!
Always Lifting You Higher

Also, the blog of Zoe Green is: http://peagreengirl.blogspot.co.uk/2013/04/happy-street-day.html

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Restart

Restart

It's usually a psychological problem...

Have you ever failed once? (Of course)

and being a good reader of this blog, you've followed what was advised and you worked harder and in a better way.

and you try at it again.

and you failed, a second time.

and this process keeps repeating: you try. you fail you change. you try again. you fail again. you change again.

I personally have faced this problem. After getting a medal in my first inter school competition when I was 13. I thought that this winning business was easy. Just go to a competition, do what I do during training, go home with a medal. Simple. 

Well it didn't work out that way.

My past three national inter-school competitions have ended horribly. What makes it worse, is that if I had reproduced the same score that I did the month before each of those competitions, I would have went home with at least a silver! So what's the problem here? Why couldn't I restart...

Most of us have a reason for trying to achieve things, be it self satisfaction, doing your country/school/team proud or maybe in some cases impressing that girl or guy ;) , there is always a reason. These "reasons" are usually our sources of motivation. But sometimes, they may turn into our biggest distractions. That small form of encouragement, may turn into that little extra pressure, that gives you that bit of nervousness which snowballs eventually to the lack of success. The worst part is, repeated setbacks over the same thing may eventually cause us to give up entirely on it. Demotivated? 

"That small form of encouragement, may turn into that little extra pressure, that gives you that bit of nervousness which snowballs eventually to the lack of success."

I'm not saying that having a reason for achieving something is bad. Please, reasons, goals, aims, they're all good. It's how you manage it. Things pop into our minds suddenly even with very little stimulation or reason to do so. When this happens. Failure to control them usually leads to a loss in concentration of the present. You Lose Focus. And what does that give you?

Our brains can only focus on one thing at a time. (For most of us...and I really mean most, like almost EVERYONE) Even those "multi-taskers" When you multitask, you're basically just shifting your main focus really quickly from one thing to another and back. But at any point of time, you're only focusing on ONE thing. So taking this fact. We should use it to our benefit right? See it in a positive light. If I can only focus on one thing at a time. If I focus on the right thing...then I can't focus on the distractions. Which means you'll stay focused on your goals! 

"When you multitask, you're basically just shifting your main focus really quickly from one thing to another and back. But at any point of time, you're only focusing on ONE thing. " 

So the next time your mind wanders during an important situation (especially when you're retrying something which you failed before), Start thinking about what you're supposed to be doing! Focus on that. Just keep thinking about the process which you should be doing. and nothing else.

"Start thinking about what you're supposed to be doing! Focus on that. Just keep thinking about the process which you should be doing."

With that, I'm sure your next attempt at success should be....a success! :) All the best to you! 

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Almost

Almost

Hi there! It's been a week since I last posted, hope everyone's been doing great! In the past week, there were council elections in school. So there was all the HYPE all the campaigning all the voting all the celebration and excitement and craziness and all of those happy stuff. Now thinking back, I've met more people in the past week of school then in the past month. That's how much people wanted votes. But like in all nominations, there were the surprises. People with like armies of supporters didn't get in. Now let's take a moment to think through this.

You have supporters who'll definitely vote for you. You do a decent campaigning....and you still don't get in. How would you feel? pretty shitty right? For someone who's used to coming back up and doing well, this is just a minor setback. but for those who have been successful over and over again, this would be quite a shocking thing. Maybe even the beginning of multiple setbacks.  

For those readers who are wondering, no I didn't run for council. Haha I'm really too busy, shooting, studying, chairman of a sport and of course blogging. Tiring. But still motivated and surviving well :) But this post is not meant for me, this post is meant for all those out there who have just saw a definite success fall apart. In other words, you just failed.

CONGRATULATIONS you just gained an experience in life most people might have missed! You should be happy with this 'failure'. A life of pure success without failure is just unrealistic. Sure it sounds nice, but having a setback once in awhile will do you wonders. I'm going to break down the benefits of 'failure' into 3 points. (I personally don't see the experience as 'failure', but let's just call it that first)

1) You're still human

If you've been having a long run of success and suddenly meet with a failure, it may be about time you took a step back and look at your life as a whole. (Read one of my previous posts "my failure" to get a better insight to this part) EVERYONE meets with an exaperience like this one point or another in life. That's for sure. The best way to get back on track is to look at the situation, find the problem, get the right solution. USE THE SOLUTION AND MOVE ON. Alot of us over analyse the problem and get stuck in a vicous downward spiral. Pull yourself out of that hole and progress to success!

2) Spring effect

Ever pushed a spring downwards before? what happens after that? That's right, it bounces back up. Like with that "Boing" sound! In the same way, that should be how we face dissapointment or things that get you down. They suppress you, try to control you. But after awhile, they'll get tired. And this is when all your stored up energy and motivation pushes yourself upwards, further than you've ever been before :)

3) Runner up's mentality

Being placed behind in the order of things is always an interesting experience. You have a choice. You can choose to just relax and move when the person infront of you moves. OR you can try to catch up and overtake whoever's ahead of you. It's all about how you think and what you're going to do about it. Are you going to give up or keep going? :)

 

For all those who managed to get into council, good job! Have a great year ahead serving the school and may you guys stay Blessed. For those who almost made it, don't let this experience become a setback! Turn it into a source of motivation for you to become a better and more successful person! :) Have a great weekend everyone! :)

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3 Idiots

Three Idiots

I really have to thank my friend Hazel for recommending this movie to me. It's a really REALLY good movie to watch. It's in Hindi but there are subtitles and it's adventurous, touching and most importantly funny. :) Usually movies which have all these factors have a really messy plot, or a plot which doesn't seem realistic. This movie however, has a really touching plot and it makes sense! Everything is well explained and you're not left wondering for too long, just long enough for you to keep watching! :) So if you really want to watch a movie at home do catch: 3 Idiots.

I won't be a spoiler by talking about the story or anything. Just going to bring out a few key points that I learnt. Yes, the movie has some life morals in it too :)

Some things I learnt from the movie:

Don't chase success, Let success chase you

I've read so many motivational books saying: "Life is a race" and if you don't run fast enough, you'd get trampled upon. Really? So you're going to conform to society's rat race? Yes I admit, I'm part of this race, always working to get good grades, good scores, another medal, another pay check, whatever. But I always ensure one thing when i'm doing what I do. I enjoy it. 

I enjoy what I do. Take shooting for example. If I didn't enjoy it, I would've quit years ago. I mean, shooting doesn't benefit your body like other sports! You don't become muscular or more fit. Contrary to popular belief, you don't get miraculous eye sight. But I enjoy it, there's that passion in every shot. Every time I lift that gun, the belief flows through me, that says: "You can do this".

There was a brief period of time when I strayed away from this self belief. I was winning competitions and I started to chase success instead of excellence. There's a difference. Chasing success is just wanting to achieve that end glory and you'd do anything to get it. An example is how a lot of students these days just keep memorizing facts and they don't bother actually learning and understanding what they're reading!

So you there! Yes YOU! What have you been doing with your life? Just chasing after success? That's like trying to satisfy your hunger by swallowing your saliva. It ain't gonna work. Make a change! Work on enjoying your process, ENJOY THE JOURNEY TO SUCCESS, PURSUE EXCELLENCE

All is well 

Recently, I uploaded a picture on instagram which talked about Peace. Here's the pic:

When life gets hectic, when things don't go according to plan, when you're just so busy that breathing seems like a chore...tell your heart: "All is well".

There is no better state of mind to do things effectively than a calm one. The best part is, when you have a calm mind, you can think clearly and you'll be able to do things more efficiently and enjoy yourself more!

So all my readers! Yes you there, (even if you're just sitting behind your computer dozing off!!!) Tell yourself: "ALL IS WELL"! Even if it's a whisper, it'll work! :) 

Friendship

In the movie, these '3 idiots' aren't stupid people their 3 really good friends, who'll do absolutely crazy things for each other. Do you have a group of 'idiots' in your life? You don't need many, just a few. Who'll be there by you. Who'll be like a bro/sis and stick by you in your times of trouble and help you become a better person! It's really hard finding these kind of friends. Readers have asked me on "how to make friends" or "how to enter a clique", and yes, i admit, it isn't easy. Always remember this: If you want REAL friends, don't close up to people immediately. Talk to people, meet people, find out what they're like. A simple smile or a "hi" can start a conversation. Try it. Also, be honest. No point being 2 faced to people and expect them to be honest with you. Be yourself. Your REAL friends will like YOU for who YOU are :) and if there's anything that needs improving, they won't push you away or let you suffer alone. They'll work together with you to make YOU a better person :)

I hope this post helps! But the thing that will help you most is to watch that movie (3 idiots) yourself :) That way, you can be inspired and motivated the way I was! :) And you never know, you may learn something more! 

Ok as usual, I coloured the important bits too! 

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My Failure

My Failure

I decided to bring out my failures in the past week... After thinking through, I felt the my failures should help those who stumble along the same path to have an easier time and maybe even find a more successful way :)

I always thought that if someone worked hard enough, long enough, success would be just a stone's throw away...I was wrong.

This week has been quite an intense one for me... Let's start with the athlete's perspective:

I've never EVER been more prepared for a competition than I was for this year's inter-school nationals. In fact, getting a medal should have been a walk in the park. I shot the silver medal score in January and the bronze medal score just last month, so I definitely didn't expect to crash to 9th. What's worse was the score I shot. Personally, I don't think I need to train to hit that score, but there it was. Shoot gold medal scores in training and on the big day, shoot a score that the 3 years ago me would have laughed at. As i said in the previous post, no excuses. I thought through what went wrong and I'm gonna get back to training soon for next weeks National Championships. What's funny is that I don't feel so stress anymore...nothing to lose? maybe... I'm still trying to find my way :)
*Anyways, i'm sorry to all those who wished me all the best and those who were expecting more. I'm not even gonna say "better luck next year". No. Just gonna work hard quietly. Thank you for being there :) *

So that was my athlete story...what can be learnt from a failed athlete? I mean, have you seen a book in the store saying "Tales from the failed athlete?" not yet...maybe one day someone should write one. Personally, I feel there's a lot to learn from failure.

Failure point 1: Get your fundamentals right

Unknown to many, I have horrible fundamentals in shooting. Yes, I too know that I won most of my medals when I was younger. But my fundamentals are really bad. And that's what's costing me most now. Sure, now I'm rather technically skilled and I can shoot tens frequently(except when it matters most, as show in the story above). I've spent years working on correcting my fundamentals, which kids take maybe weeks to master. Why? it's hard unteaching and then teaching something. Don't believe me? Try this: your whole life, you have the habit of writing with your master hand (right hand for me). Now I tell you to start using your other hand and still get the maintain the same neatness in your writing. That's what I had to go through for the past few years. Yes, there were moments of brilliance which I'll cherish, but its the struggles that i'll never forget. The weeks and months of going through fundamental training, and still trying to be one of the best. 

But here's the big question. Why didn't I work on my fundamentals when I first started? I was young, naive. I couldn't tell the difference between good and bad techniques. I had no say.

So kids or anyone out there starting out on something new, remember this: Master the right fundamentals, because in the long run, that's what matters most  

Next, I'll talk about my week as a student:

I got back my physics test results today and for the first time in my life, I failed physics. I honestly didn't really react to it due to my nationals result. But now thinking back...gosh...I've failed twice this week already! and these are just the notable failures! What to do What to do...

Failure point 2: The past. the present, the future... 3 Different moments

Don't worry, I know what to do. Like what an Olympian once said to me: "Why are you still sad about the past? It's over, move on." It's true. I was a champion. I failed. I still can still feel like a champion. How? Work like one. Get back that mental drive that drove me to success the first time. This is what I'm going to do: Study harder for my subjects, GET HELP. Yes, there's no room for pride. When you need help, ask for it. I'll also manage my time a bit more differently. More efficiently. #resolute

This is what anyone and everyone out there facing a slump should take note of: Remember what made you great, you can do it again. YES YOU CAN.
and if you're facing failure or a setback just remember: You were something in the past. But that's just a memory. What you want to be now is what defines you. Your success in the future only can get started from the work you do in the present.

Well, that's all there is from me today! I coloured the really important sentences. Always Lifting You Higher :)

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Handicapped

Handicapped

I was watching a video recently, which really touched me. Even though I did expect the ending, I was touched when it actually did happen. Why? I'll leave the link of the video here (so you can see it too) :

Video: Auto Driver

From the video, we could learn a few things:

1) Don't Jump to conclusions

This is probably the most obvious theme of the video and also the part that had the most impact. There's a Chinese phrase: 知人知面不知心，画虎画皮难画骨。

Basically, it literally means that it's easy to know a person and know how they look like, but it is harder to know their character. The second part of the phrase reiterates this point, it says: you can draw a tiger, draw its skin (outer appearance), but it is difficult to draw it's skeleton. 

It's so easy for us to judge someone based on their outer appearance. I personally admit to stereotyping people at times. But over the years, I've learnt to control myself. Imagine how many quality friends I would've missed out on if I just go by appearance. I sit next to this guy in class. He honestly does look a bit like a gangster. But he's a really good friend and he knows how to treat people. Get to know someone first before marking them down.  

2) The easy way

Did anyone notice the beggar who went up to the car at first? The one who walked with a limp. Look carefully at his upper body, not really disabled right? Compare him to the cab driver, who's more disabled? That's right the cab driver. But let's think about it. Why didn't the cab driver help his fellow handicap? This is what I think the reason is: The first handicap has taken the easy way out by begging instead of using whatever abilities he has left to work for his money. This is a dangerous mindset to have. Many times, we tend to look for the easy way out. So much so that we lose our self respect. We look for a quick-fix and we don't even care. Life is about facing the challenges straight up. Don't always look for the easy way. Sure, you'll progress, but what do you learn? What do you gain? just another shortcut.

3) Self control (Through positive mindset)

Also, didn't you find it ironic that the passenger said: "If we were in this position, then only we would have understood". Why didn't the driver react after being wronged? why wasn't he angry or sad? In life there are 3 options when someone says something hurtful to us. The first, we can be angry. Rage at them. Give it to them straight up. But what's the point? That just creates more trouble. The second is being all depressed. Again, what's the point of feeling disappointed in yourself when it isn't your fault? 

So what should we do? Here's the third reaction, seeing it positively. Turn your anger or self pity into your strength. Something that will let you clench your teeth and push on, persevere. It's this positive mentality which will keep you in check. Control your life. How do you expect to drive yourself to success without control?  

I hope this post has been insightful! Let's give people a chance to show who they are before we start judging them! Remember to stay positive and persevere in all you attempt in the coming week!:) 

On a side note, I've decided to post less, maybe once or twice a week? Quality posts are better than quantity :) AND it's perfectly fine to reread posts! Especially the ones that inspire you the most! :) Also, do send me requests if you have any. I'll try my best to write something to help you :) (and yes I keep all my readers annonymous unless they want to be known) Stay Lifted readers! :)

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Excuses

Excuses

There's this phrase trending now in school! "Don't give Excuses"

It's quite true isn't it? We don't really have an excuse, like a LEGIT excuse, to get ourselves out of trouble. It may be a good excuse, but it's still an excuse. 

Last week, Pastor Jeremy came to my school to give a talk for Religious Emphasis Week. He spoke about excuses ad showed that really, there shouldn't be any excuses. SO NO EXCUSES! Here's something which happened to me the other day,

I was in school coaching (but mostly slacking) some of the younger shooters. Half way through their training while they were in the middle of a set, i went to meet someone. I was barely gone for 1 minutes. When i got back, what did I see? One boy shooting at another boys target. Someone eating while training. Numerous boys engaged in their own discussions about their girlfriends, boyfriends, gayfriends...whatever! But they weren't doing what they were supposed to do. They didn't obey. And I'm glad they just accepted the subsequent punishment sets without complaining. Because that's what we should do after we make a mistake. Accept it, Apologize, Move on. No excuses 

But didn't the above paragraph make them sound really bad in general? Like some ill-disciplined kids? Yes it does. But many of us fail to see that we are actually just like them. For those Christians reading this blog, do you really follow strictly to the 10 commandments? I know most of us have broken at least one. I'll just bring up one, "Honour thy father and thy mother". Now remember that time when you felt your parents were unreasonable (or they may really be unreasonable) and you argued with them? Is that honouring them? Think about it. 

And what's your excuse for breaking the laws? No excuses. Put in the effort TODAY!

Non-Christian? Ok, Athletes reading this. Your coach gave you a hard set to do. You didn't put in your 100% because you feel there's no point. What's your excuse? Didn't you want to achieve your goals? Even if you have talent, slacking will get you nowhere near where hard work and determination can bring you.

Non-Athlete too? Let's talk about the work place or in school. Didn't finish your latest assignment on time? "I was busy" "I had so many assignments to do already". NO EXCUSES. Prioritize. I've written about managing yourself before! You can do it! Refer to my previous posts if you need to! Help yourself achieve YOUR FULL POTENTIAL.

So remember. No Excuses. 

Food for thought: Do you want to build a House of failure? or a House of success?

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Stop

Stop

Part 3 of the 3 part series on Timing

Let's recap, we've talked about starting well, planning and moving in at the right timing. Then we talked on being consistent, getting the right timing every time. Now, we'll move on to the dirty bit ;) yeah...the bit that's realistic to most of us. When do we GIVE UP?

I seldom use those two words together "Give" and "Up". It's so demoralizing! So let's just use the word STOP. When do we stop?

Some times we try and try again and just keep trying and pushing on over the same thing. And the result is the same, we fail. I'm not telling you that you should give up on your goals! No no. Your goals stay the same. Just give up on the method that you've been doing.

Albert Einstein once said the definition of Insanity is "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Doesn't that sound like some of us? We already know that doing homework at the last minute is going to get us bad grades, but time and again, we find ourselves doing homework at the last minute, hoping to do well. Okay maybe not all of us wants to do well, but you get the point. CHANGE YOUR METHODS. But stay in the game. 

As an athlete, I don't just watch my own sport. I like watching other athletes do their sports too, whatever it may be, swimming, running, basketball, etc. By watching sportsmen do their thing, we can see a common trait among the best athletes. They never give up on their goals. One of my favourite shooters once said, "Fallen, stepped back, bowed down. But not giving up". He defines what most sportsmen do. Not every competition is a full success, there'll usually if not always, be something to work on. So what are you going to do? Bow down and take a step back and then push on? Or Give up on your dreams totally?    

Never give up on your ultimate goal. Till the day you pass on, keep working on it, finding new ways and methods to reach that goal. Never Give Up. When everything seems to be going wrong, STOP. Take a step back, rethink a NEW plan and try again :)

There's this song by Pink, "try" and I'll end off with a quote from the song:

"Where there is desire

There is gonna be a flame

Where there is a flame

Someone's bound to get burned

But just because it burns

Doesn't mean you're gonna die

You've gotta get up and try, and try, and try

Gotta get up and try, and try, and try

You gotta get up and try, and try, and try"

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Consistent Timing

Getting the right timing

(Part 2 of a 3 part series)

It seems difficult to get the right timings doesn't it? What's even harder, is getting it right consistently. Today, I'll be speaking on both of these areas and hopefully it'll help you get things done well! :)

In Shooting there's a point in time where we learn to start triggering before we actually reach the ten area (the tiny black dot where everything is aligned and when you trigger off you get a ten). Why do we start triggering early? If you wait till you reach the target then you start triggering, sometimes, it may lead to you triggering late! Which is definitely not ideal. Consistency is very important in shooting and even in life.  

AND IT'S THE SAME logic as we aim to achieve our goals. We don't start thinking or trying to push ourselves to success when we are nearing it. We start pushing ourselves from a very early stage of the process. From there we keep on maintaining, staying steady, being consistent.  

Remember what I mentioned the last time? "Begin with the end in mind". Do not allow yourself to go onto a path without having a clear strategy of achieving what you want! Careful planning and structuring will form the backbone to your success. Whether you meet this goals or not is a different issue which we'll talk about another time. There's no point trying to achieve goals if you do not know how to keep yourself going after getting started! 

So how do you get it right every time? Simply put, plan in advance. Just like shooting, do not wait till it's too late before you trigger off! Start early, don't rush. Give yourself the time to calmly trigger yourself to success! Do this every time, and you'd have achieved consistency. With the right planning and the right attitude towards everything that you do, I'm positive that YOU will be heading in the right direction, towards your ultimate goal (or goals) :)

*Note*

Sometimes while practicing what I said above, you might face unexpected difficulties! DO NOT WORRY! That's when you must remember to have faith and keep trying :)

In the next post, I'll be talking about the ending and "when to give up". Till then, stay motivated, stay consistent! Always Lifting You Higher :)

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Timing

Timing

In a world obsessed with numbers, scores, timings, who beats who, who's better, who's worse... Face it, we live in a world that compares. I'm not saying all these are bad. Honestly speaking, some form of pressure or comparison is needed in life to drive you out of complacency. But here's a topic I want to focus on this week, when is it the right time? And when it is the right time, what do we do?

Laying the foundations

On the part about staying on your toes and not being complacent. Just today, I  received back one of my literature assignments. I may appear lazy or laid back I am in class or in my usual work (This isn't good, please don't follow me on this part, I'M WORKING ON IT :) ) BUT when I bother doing something seriously, I'll expect at least a Grade 6 (70%) but  this time I got 12/20! That's pretty bad! I was just 2 marks away from failing! I know I say failure is part of the process to success, so I'll heed my own advice and just work harder. When these kind of things happen, you gotta stop and think. What happened? How do I improve from here? Remember, Always stay sharp and steady, never let yourself slack when you're still in the process to success.

I found this exercise advert on staying consistent.
Yes, STAY CONSISTENT IF YOU WANT TO SEE RESULTS! 

So how do we know if we are starting on the right path? If we don't get the beginning part right, how are we going to make the right progress! In some cases, we might be going in the totally opposite direction! 

Firstly, you have to plan. Answer this fundamental question: "Where do I want to be?" Set Your end goal. Begin with the end in mind.

Secondly, when you're sure on what you want to do, learn about it, see the different approaches taken by people, learn from them and make your own path! No two people take the EXACT same path. Different people face different challenges. Here's an example: Some people can start motivational blogs without a problem. They just start it, tell a few people and BOOM, next day they have a couple of thousand viewers/followers. For me, it wasn't so easy at the start, I didn't have a lot of readers on average in the beginning. (Ok, yes i did get 250 views in the first night, but that was just the first night :P) So always prepare yourself for challenges! Focus on bringing out the best rather than just pressing the 'panic button' every time! 

Life throws different difficulties at us.
PREPARE yourself for these challenges!

Thirdly, set forth! GO! Do something! Don't hold back out of fear. Fears are usually just you worrying. And worrying is something psychological. If that's the case, then it's usually self-made. Don't let YOU stop yourself from success. Today on instagram I posted a picture saying: "Success is not a destination, It is a journey" Yes, follow that! Experience the journey in order to reach that success! 

So now that we've got the fundamentals right, START PLANNING! I'll be moving on to staying consistent and getting the right timings in all that you do!

 

Isn't that amazing? Getting the perfect timing EVERY TIME! But honestly, it isn't very difficult! I'll share that in my next post! ;) Don't worry readers! I won't keep you waiting too long, will probably post it tomorrow :)

Also, In the post after that I'll be talking on, "When's the right time to give up". Yes, there is a time to throw in the towel. But when and how do we know? Isn't it too early to give up? Or is it already too late? Don't make these mistakes! Stay tuned to the next post! Till then, stay motivated readers! You guys are awesome :)

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Clothes?

Clothes?

Here's a story I heard some time ago... 

Once there were 2 tribes. Tribe A and Tribe B. (Sorry for my lack of creativity :P ) Anyways, Tribe A and Tribe B were supposed to meet to have a formal gathering. Everything seemed fine except for one thing. You see, Tribe A is into this habit of going to formal gatherings...well...naked. That's right NAKED. No clothes. No thread. Nothing. It's their culture and way of life. And with Tribe B, you have the total opposite. Tribe B is more urbanized and everyone wears formal clothes (coat and tie) during a formal gathering. So imagine the planning needed when these two meet.

Think about it.

If you were Tribe B, and you were going to have a formal gathering, and all your guests come NAKED. For those sneaky kids who are reading this, no not everyone in the tribe is hot, so no eye candy there ;) BUT seriously, how would you feel? Awkward? Offended? 

And what about if you were Tribe A? Why change your customs and practices just for someone else? Shouldn't you be comfortable in whatever you're in? Have confidence in yourself?

Well, this isn't a matter of confidence. No, that's a topic for another day. This is a topic on respect, Respecting Others. 

Have you ever talked to an older person before? Do you realize, that sometimes you just have to have that little bit more patience when talking to them? It's not that they need your pity of anything. It's just that different people have different ways of doing things. Old people may speak slower, Parents may be long-winded or like what most youths would say 'naggy'. But you can't go around snapping or getting mad at them, basic respect to listen and wait :) I'm young too. I'm 17 this year! Not 71...so I know how fast-paced and stressful life can get! But sometimes we need to remember to respect those around us and have some consideration towards them.

Here's how the tribe story continues...

Tribe A decides to respect their hosts and dress up for the occasion. They wore the suits, the ties, the dresses, the high heels! They wore Everything needed for a formal occasion. Even I thought wearing only socks would be an improvement for them! Anyways, they head to Tribe B's village and when they met the Tribe's people, both Tribes stood in awe of each other...for infront of the now smartly dressed Tribe A...

Were the stark naked Tribe B.

Hope you can see the respect and consideration shown by the 2 Tribes towards each other! Tribe A respected how Tribe B dressed formally. While Tribe B, on their own initiative, respected Tribe A's customs and did not want the situation to be awkward.

Respect the people around you today! :)

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