The Tree

The Tree

I'm sure most of us have heard the question about the tree in the forest. If you haven't this is how it goes: "If a tree falls in the forest, but no one is there, did it happen?" or "If a tree falls in the forest, but no one is there to hear it, does it still make a sound"

Answering this is fairly easy, most people will just answer based on experience and say 'yes'. But the hard part is proving it....and this is what this post is going to be about... no not the tree 

Suspicions and Proving Things...

Seems pretty easy for us to assume things from time to time and most of the time, yes, we are right. But that's usually when we assume how things are physically done. Like: I assume that my books are in the locker or that the cake stall sells cake. (mmm...cake :) )

But when it comes to things like someone's emotions and how they feel, don't leave it to assumptions! NEVER. NEVER EVER.

If you have, now you know.

Why? Let me share with you guys something...

Up till recently, I had this girl best friend (don't worry guys, i'm just telling one incident, not the whole life story). I used to assume that she was fine when I said certain things bluntly to her. Some examples are: "stop being lazy, you pig, work harder"...yeah i was an ass back then. (But i'm changed/changing for the better *promise*) 

So, I said these phrases casually, without thinking, and basically to sum up the whole thing. I'm now 1 friend less.  

I don't go about blaming myself, and neither should you if you've made the same mistake before. As I said in my previous post, LEARN from it. That's the most important thing to do, learning from it will make sure that you won't repeat it :) 

Now, back to assumptions, don't ever feel you truly know how people feel. Most of you would have seen and heard phrases like these before:

And it is true. Take time to learn about the person before you start saying things. Even if the person is your best friend (like in my case), take time to get to know him/her better. As much as your life is progressing, so is theirs. If they don't want to share it with you, maybe they need a little space, and that's probably the best you can do for them :) (or you can get them to read my previous post on not bottling things up ;) ) 

So remember, next time before you say or do something to someone and you THINK you're right, check the whole situation first. You never know, you might stop yourself in time from making things worse for the person, and instead show them the way! (lifting them up :) )

Feel free to share your experiences or leave any comments :)